Saturday, May 16, 2009
Ive been having an ongoing conversation with my 2nd son about how we as Christians have 1 example, The Lord Jesus.
In dealing with certain situations and certain 15 year old girls, we are to be Christlike. Man thats a tall order.
I'm gonna give you a couple of situations and maybe you can tell me how you would handle them because I am a total failure .
I try so hard to be patient and kind but it always ends up with me yelling at her.
Last night or yesterday after school, she rode home with a friend that lives down the street, that I don't really know that well but Whitney says she's really nice and her dad is a coach at our school, so I have not said anything, because if I do I'm a horrible parent (I really don't care what she thinks, but Ive been raising kids for so long, I just want contentment)! ANYWAY...she said she wants to go hang out with Lindsey, so I said "put your laundry in to wash and that'll be fine" so she does. At about 6;30 she text's me and says Lindsey and I are going to the rodeo. I say, we have supper for you, she says she wants to go ahead and go to the rodeo, so I relent. Go ahead, but be home early you have to finish your laundry. Rudy tells her to be home at 10.Well at 10:20 she calls and says that Lindsey's family went to Taco bell and she couldn't get her at 10, but when she does get here she eats the "supper" I had for her earlier...I tell her "don't forget to do your laundry", Well she finally goes to bed, and this morning when I wake her up, there's the laundry all neatly folded, waiting to be hung, just the way I had left it. She never touched it. So , Rudy's telling her to hurry up because he's gonna be late and she is just so nonchalant. she could care less about putting someone else out. So I say to her, "you want adult privileges then you need to start acting responsibly, like an adult". About that time, she spots the ring on my finger that she gave me for mothers day, and she says "give me that ring, I spent way too much money on it for YOU to treat me this way", I passed the ring to her and walked away. she did do the laundry and make her bed (but with prompts) and Rudy was late to work because he was waiting for her.
I don't want the ring back. If she's gonna get mad and take it every time I don't please her. I am at my wits end. When she wants to go somewhere I take her, I always let her drive, I am loving and I TRY to be kind, and believe me its hard when a child (15 year old) acts like she hates me all the time except when she wants something ,and then she's like sugar (fake). She is failing algebra and has to go to summer school, and could care less. I really don't let her do much . Yesterday,going to the rodeo was not something she does very much at all. She is just now starting to ask to do a few things and I plan to use these requests as leverage, for when I want her to do things. I would like to go to sleep and wake up when she's grown, seriously.
Ya'll please pray for me. This probably doesn't make any sense to you but I think I may feel better! :)
Posted by Glenda, saved by grace at Saturday, May 16, 2009