Wednesday, October 28, 2009

MY defence of my public humiliation of my CHILD!

What is humility?
hu⋅mil⋅i⋅ty  /hyuˈmɪlɪti or, often, yu-/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [hyoo-mil-i-tee or, often, yoo-]
–noun the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one's own importance, rank, etc.

And the one we've all been waiting on the:

Synonyms:
lowliness,meekness, submissiveness.

Antonyms:
pride.

1Peter 5:5 Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all [of you] be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.

What in the world is this saying?

Besides the obvious that we are to submit, what is submit? (honor, obey,trust, )
1.to give over or yield to the power or authority of another (often used reflexively).
2.to subject to some kind of treatment or influence.
3.to present for the approval, consideration, or decision of another or others: to submit a plan; to submit an application.

To our elders, what is an elder?
Greater than another in age or seniority.
Superior to another or others, as in rank -noun
1.An older person.
2.An older, influential member of a family, tribe, or community.
3.One of the governing officers of a church, often having pastoral or teaching functions
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I think that , be subject one to another means: that we should be open, and listen to what your sister or brother has to say, but the final rule is , What sayeth the scripture... we should be clothed in humility : COVERED in humility!
You should see humility before you see me.
Scripture says God resisteth the proud
resisteth :
To strive to fend off or offset the actions, effects, or force of.
Synonyms:1. confront, counteract, rebuff. See oppose.
and the key word here
PROUD:feeling pleasure or satisfaction over something regarded as highly honorable or creditable to oneself

Synonyms: 1. contented, self-satisfied. 2. overbearing, self-important, disdainful, imperious, presumptuous. Proud, arrogant, haughty imply a consciousness of, or a belief in, one's superiority in some respect. Proud implies sensitiveness, lofty self-respect, or jealous preservation of one's dignity, station, and the like. It may refer to an affectionate admiration of or a justifiable pride concerning someone else: proud of his son. Arrogant applies to insolent or overbearing behavior, arising from an exaggerated belief in one's importance: arrogant rudeness. Haughty implies lofty reserve and confident, often disdainful assumption of superiority over others: the haughty manner of the butler in the play. 6. noble, imposing, splendid.

More than anything in this world I want humility... and I want to teach it to my children. If they are being proud and haughty, if they are drawing attention to themselves in a way that is not pleasing to the Lord, then I want the spot-light OFF.

I see nothing wrong with publicly spanking and if need be, humiliating my child in a public place.

Hebrews 12:8 but if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

I would rather punish them and humiliate them when it is deserved and maybe put them on the right path than to stand by and let them believe the worlds lie that they are GOOD. Truth is they are BAD...Born bad, they got it from they're daddy ADAM

Psalm 58:3 The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies.

Jer 17:9 The heart [is] deceitful above all [things], and desperately wicked: who can know it?

We don't teach our children to be bad. Theyre pro's. They come by it naturally!

But if you want them to be good, you have to teach them to be good, because being good is NOT something we come by naturally.

Back in the day when I was growing up, in school, if you were mis-behaving, you got put OUT of the classsroom which was humiliating (in front of all your friends) then sitting in that big old empty hallway alone gave you time to think about what you had done wrong. Then if someone saw you, O how embarrasing...and if the principal caught you in the hallway it was an instant spanking and then when your parents found out about it (O and they would , and the parents NEVER questioned the school), that was another spanking and the end result was that : You KNEW not to do whatever you had done that caused you the PAIN and HUMILIATION that you had endured...a lesson was learned. YOU knew that YOU had caused your pain and humiliation.

Todays world blames everything on someone else, or some type of dis-order...When in reality most things that cause us grief are REACTIONS to our own ACTIONS !

The world today has the message that says "build up their self esteem"

Self esteem:
1.a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect.
2.an inordinately or exaggeratedly favorable impression of oneself.

self esteem... is sending ALOT of people straight to hell!

my bible tells me to "keep 'em low", teach them humility and thats exactly what I'm gonna do.




8 comments:

Karyn @ Candarbry Garden said...

What a shame that we are made to feel less of a parent for holding our children to GOD'S standard. We as Parents are required by God to raise them in the fear and admonitition of the LORD. Too bad they try every day to strip us of this responsibility. If things were like they were even 50 years ago, When GOD was allowed in school, we wouldn't even be having this conversation. LOVE you and know that you are doing what God has told you to do as a shepherd of that young heart.

Dontmissyoursunsetlady said...

Glenda,

My apology that my comment must have offended you. That was sure not my intent. I'm certainly not anti disipline. While we may differ on our veiws on some things, I think our heart's desire is the same. blessings to you and yours!

Dee said...

She will thank you some day.

Mamaw 28 said...

I don't think you need to defend your actions. You are her mother and you do the right thing for the right reason at the right time!!! nuff said. Love you sister

Unknown said...

why do your blogs always have to be about me?!

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Glenda, saved by grace said...

BECAUSE...I LOVE YOU! You are my world...........
♥ Mama

Dontmissyoursunsetlady said...

Hi Glenda,

Just checking in! Thank you for commenting on my blog! Hope you are well!