Thursday, November 19, 2009


I am so judgemental.
I can hardly stand myself...
I start thinking about things, sins maybe, that I think are heinous or detrimental to me, concerning teaching my daughter they're WRONG...
I get so angry at people who spit in Gods face, who say they are christian, but live contrary to Gods word. It makes it so hard to try to teach my children right from wrong. It causes me to question things that I think are wrong...are they really ?
Maybe I'm too staunch on things.
I refuse to let my daughter wear a revealing bathing suit or bikini . I stand firm on it. She may grow up and do the opposite, but like Ive said before,
"until she get some convictions of her own, and as long as she's living in my house, she will live by MY CONVICTIONS".
I believe that men are visual creatures and I believe that part of the reason that there are so many rapes, molestations because of the way that women dress... Am I blaming the victim? Absolutely NOT ,
no-one has the right to violate another person, ever, for any reason, but at the same time, I ask you to think about this : Maybe...I mean, I'm not cold hearted. I'm not going to go to the rape victim and say "its your fault", But I will say to the young girl or woman who's showing their breasts, or wearing short shorts, or revealing clothes, that your asking for men to look at you... Not to be violated... But... just who's looking at you?
I tell my daughter " just remember its not only the cute hot guys that are looking, its the daddy's, grandpa's, dirty old men, and perverts too"
It is in a mans nature to look, and they do.
You know the bible tells us in the gospel of
Matthew 18:6 But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and [that] he were drowned in the depth of the sea.
To me this says that you should not tempt people to sin.
If something is a weakness to a brother (fellow christian) then, I should help him, and not cause him to stumble.
Ive told my daughters-in law that" If ,when you get dressed, you look in the mirror and can honestly say,
"I wouldn't mind my husband looking at a woman dressed like this",
then wear it,
if it would make you mad for your husband to look at a woman dressed like you are, then don't wear it,
someone else's husband may be looking at you and you would be causing the same reaction that the naked woman you claim your husband is looking at has caused...
Does that make sense?
We have so many so called christians that are on the social networking sites and they post pictures of their lives ,and that is fine, I do it too, but come on... my kids are looking... Please take the ones off that are causing the conflict between me and my kid... If you say your a christian , dont you think you have a little bit of "human responsibility"?
She holds you in such high esteem... You may be the mother to her best friend, her school teacher, her coach, one of my friends who boasts the name of "christian".

Your "christian liberty" is causing people to stumble...
or so they say. People who say they adhere to Gods word... I have the same problem with the christian drinkers...
OK so, you may not have a problem with alcohol, maybe you can have an occasional drink and leave it there.
I am trying to teach my kids.
I say alcohol is a drug, it is a proven fact that alcohol:
~ causes divorce,
~causes women to get beat up ,
~causes fetal alcohol syndrome,
~causes wrecks,
~causes young kids to do things that they would NEVER do apart from alcohol.
You wanna use your "christian liberty" to drink,
fine by me but
I dont wanna see it,
I dont want my kid to see it,
I don't wanna hear about it
and for goodness sake
take the pictures down that have you "posing" with your bottle...
Those look so STUPID.
I almost expect the caption to have a name under the bottle...My best friend, LITE.
If you wanna drink, do it behind your closed HOUSE doors because I dont want my kid coming to me asking "if its so bad , why does so and so do it" Because you wanna know what my answer is?
It is that evidently so and so is either
1. a baby christian who does not know better
2. So and so is a walking contradiction, not a christian at all!
The bible says in James 4:11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of [his] brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
I know that the Lord is gonna separate the wheat from the tares...
Matthew 13:30 : Let both grow together until the harvest: and in the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, Gather ye together first the tares, and bind them in bundles to burn them: but gather the wheat into my barn.
I believe He's talking about ...
not at Wal-mart,
~or K-mart,
~or the club,
~or some social function.
I am asking for PRAYER.
I am really having a hard time with this


Gramma 2 Many said...

Great Post Glenda!! I never allowed my children to dress in a provocative manner at all while they were growing up. I had some resistance, but now that they are parents, they are imparting the same values to their children. It sometimes seems as though all you say falls on deaf ears, but they do hear.
Continue to stand strong and firm.

angelonwheels said...

I will pray...Phil 4:8 Gal. 5:1. It is such a hard balance! I understand the struggle of both extremes. It is hard to be in the world and not of it. God alone can reveal the balance to each christian, even though, there are many things the Lord CLEARLY calls us to flee from

Washer Mom Val said...

Kuddos for putting it out there. We've had many a talk about appropriate on "dressing, talking, acting,etc." and the lessons go on. Conservative dress. You can dress "nice" and not show it all. I know I'll have more battles ahead too - so I read with interest and gain strength from seeing you draw that line in the sand....we are the parents, that is our job. Amen.

beckymc said...

Here Here!!! Good post Glenda! I agree with you 100%. I do not want to see scantly clad women in church or anywhere for that matter. I am tired of seeing bellies and boobs everywhere I go! Thank you for putting it out there. We all need to hear it and we all need to address it!

Dee said...

Glenda, I will be praying for you...My daughter was once a young teen...and it about killed me, But I raised her with good God given moral teachings and she fought me most of the way.But I know now that I did right.

Jumbo said...

That's a part of a Christian worldview Glenda. Only non-Christians would have a problem with your post. (Jim Chosen in case you're wondering.) :)

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Anonymous said...

very true...lots of home truths right here. more women need to know this kind of stuff. There ar times I just have to look down when I walk walk through the shops,...people dont care how they dress...

Whitney said...

heyy mom!

Dee said...

Glenda, come back. Blog land misses you!!!